Hey there, mama. : )
I hope you had a fantastic holiday. Our family had a wonderful time, all home together for a very quiet Christmas–and then joined the 26th by my parents (nicknamed “Tutu” and “Grampab” by the kiddos). Now that the whir of the season has wound down, and my initial panic about making hundreds of goals has simmered a bit (I’m not the only one, right?!), I’m feeling energized and ready to take on the new year.
2016 is going to hold big changes for our family (we’ll be moving from our long-term home and starting active duty military life mid-year!) and many changes for the blog as well!
Here are my goals (and what you can look forward to!) for Bright Light Forever in 2016:
#1: Cheering you on!
Mama, parenthood is hard. Womanhood is hard. Life is hard.
A few weeks ago the leader of our church congregation shared a story with us that hit me like a firework right in my heart. His father was traveling in Boston and happened to be there when the Boston Marathon was on. He took some time to stand at near the finish line, and as he stood in the crowd he realized that the onlookers were cheering for every single runner.
Each person who passed by on the final mile of that grueling, endurance-breaking race heard the roar of the crowd.
The audience didn’t cheer because they knew every person, or because they were watching the fastest, the best looking, or the most awarded runners on earth. They cheered because they saw their fellow men and women trying hard at a very hard thing.
That’s what you’re doing, mama. You’re trying hard at a very, very, very hard thing.
So this year, I’m going to cheer you on for that. I’m going to high five you and throw confetti and blow kisses, because the going is rough, and even if you’re locked in the bathroom crying, you are in this. And you are kicking tail and taking names.
And as I cheer you on, I hope you’ll take every opportunity to cheer on your fellow mamas, too.
#2: Helping you find simple solutions.
Over the past seven years or so of motherhood (and almost ten of wife-hood), I have agonized over the continuous state of chaos and mess our house was in.
I have missed lots of great activities because I blew up at my kids and punished them (and me!) by taking away an event or treat we were about to enjoy.
I have checked on my sleeping children at night, and then cried because I felt so overwhelmed by my own inadequacy as their mother.
The switch from being a self-sufficient full-time employee at a 9-5 jog to being the hub of our family and home felt like it would crush me. There were a million things to be looked after, and they all seemed to take more time than I had.
Which is why I started voraciously reading books, listening to podcasts, and asking questions of anyone who’d listen. I’ve learned a lot about productivity, workflows, and keeping first things first.
In 2016, I want to help you learn how to find the simple solutions to your problems. How to identify what’s got you stuck, and figure out how to get un-stuck. I’ll share some of my favorite tricks, and also encourage you to figure out a simpler life-problem-solving method for yourself.
#3: Encouraging you to take better care of yourself.
I know. You are buried under piles of laundry, work deadlines, and maybe even a nursing newborn. It seems like there is simply no time for you.
But here’s the deal–taking time to look after yourself is one of the best, most selfless things you can do for your family.
I whole-heartedly subscribe to that quirky saying, “If mama ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy.” Not because we strive to make our families miserable when we are, but simply because, as wives and mothers, we have the privilege of being the heart of our homes.
If the heart isn’t healthy and well-kept, it’s not working to capacity–and the rest of the operation is going to come crashing down, too.
So this year, I’m going to encourage you to take good care of yourself. I want to help you learn what that means in your current phase of life, and how to do it now that you’re in charge of the full-time love and care of your little people.
#4: Helping you grow as a person.
It is wonderful to grow as a mother, and of course I will keep on keeping on with ideas and inspiration to help you stay on track there.
But before you were a mother, you were a person. And you know what? You still are!
A lot of times our personhood can get lost in the needs and wants of our kiddos. We forget we aren’t locked in to just being “Mom”–we still get to be ourselves, too.
That’s why in 2016, I want to help you grow as a person, too. I want to help you pursue a dream, break down goals into bite-sized chunks, and learn how slow and steady progress means you can be what your family needs and become who you want to be.
And I’ll be right there with you, chugging along with my own goals and aspirations (I get totally giddy about goal setting–just ask the hubs).
Those are my goals for us this year, mama.
And here’s my one request of you, to help me get this going right–would you be a darling and fill out a little reader survey? Just click the link below to get started:
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Here’s to 2016, and a year of even brighter light at Bright Light Forever!